dirtsbag:

if you’re going to write dark harry (or a “dark” plot with any idolized male), please write about him not being able to sleep without a nightlight, or something that isn’t nearly as terrifying as him throwing around a female and controlling whom she sees and whom she speaks to, what she wears; going as far as taking her from where she lives or off the streets to keep her secluded within his home and locking her up or something just as equally insane; slapping her around; and manipulating the deranged relationship to the point where she goes back to him through whatever because he “protects” her and “loves” her.

because when you mix romance with mental, emotional, and physical abuse, you — as a writer — are choosing to mark that impression of morbid passion into a very young, very impressionable, teen’s mind. and the scariest thing to witness is a writer who doesn’t understand or realize the damage they can do with one sentence, one little phrase — phrases about how he loves her, how he’s only doing what he’s doing because he cares about her and wants the best for her. that’s manipulative abuse you’re portraying to young women.

and the worst part is, there is a high potential that when one of those girls grows up to be a woman, in the back of her head, something is going to be triggering the thoughts that it’s okay if a man in her life does that to her: hits her, shoves her around, is possessive and aggressive, “protective” of her in ways where she can barely speak to other men or another human being, only to go back and tell her he loves her, because she read your story about her favorite celebrity. because she read even the tiniest of sentences that you produced when you condoned, either subtly or indefinitely, the romanticized ideals of abuse. and that’s nasty.